From childhood
The roots of the
intense problems that adults United Nations agency return for psychotherapy,
sometimes rooted in childhood. And one of the main causes of childhood
psychological trauma - the lack of support from folks. The renowned British
psychiatrist, a pediatrician and kid medical specialist Donald Woods Winnicott
aforementioned, folks have a responsibility to make sure the kid safe
predictable environment - the key to a healthy internal development of
children's temperament.
He pointed out that
even when the grown child is ready to meet with unforeseen situations in the
outside world, it is still necessary to support the presence of close adults. Winnicott
used the example of an unexpectedly low airplanes: If at this point the mother
hugs a frightened child and she keeps composure, he quickly recovers and soon
ready to return to the game, but if the mother is not around or frightened, the
child may experience a nervous breakdown.
Horror movie
Now imagine the
following scene: baby wakes up in the morning my mother, not saying anything,
it pushes breakfast, hurriedly dress and drags nowhere. Going
with the child in an unfamiliar (or, conversely, a frighteningly familiar)
building, leads him into the office, where it gives strangers, whom he sees for
the first time in my life, and she betrayed disappears. These
people, too, without further ado, grab the kid and start to perform with him
terrible things. For
example, stick a needle in it. Or tied
to a chair and climb some glands in the throat...
It looks like a
horror movie, but for many children it is the prose of life. Such
memories are often heard in the therapist's office. Even
doctors began to notice this behavior as a problem of parents, and parents
often do not see any problem: they took care of the health of the baby - what
more do you need?
Unfortunately, in our
country, many people do not think about the fact that in addition to physical
health, there is also mental. By
the way, do not know which one is more important - especially as they are
related. While
there may be many adults simply do not take into account the fact that the
child is, despite its small size, too, man. With their feelings and desires. And the man who is entirely
dependent on their parents. Their
behavior determines baby feel safe or not, would you trust the people you know.
This, in
turn, will affect his whole life.
Tips caring parents
- Warn your child in advance that he will tell us about that much detail.
- Tell the truth. (For example, avoid saying "it does not hurt," if in fact be hurt or you doing not know anything about the procedure, it is better to say "will be a little painful, but I'll hold your hand").
- Talking with your child, listen and accept his feelings when he cries - let him cry, do not cry - and it is so bad.
- In difficult times get close; keep the child by the hand or hands.
- When a child is very young, it is important to maintain a constant body contact. Also, try to give your child time to get used to each step: go to a strange room, undressing, familiarity with the doctor, and so on.
Mature position
If you do not find
understanding in health care workers have to take a mature attitude and insist
on his own, regardless of whether it would be more convenient clinic staff. Even
better - go to those institutions and to those professionals who you can trust.
For
example, now there are family health centers, where it is accepted to pay
attention to the psychological aspect of the case.
Some parents can be
difficult to support their children in such situations as they once experienced
a similar injury and may not be one. A
parent with unexamined childhood trauma, getting in reminding her condition
seemed to back into a helpless child - where it really protect their own child.
So
parents should take a course of psychotherapy - even in the interest of their
children.
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