Now, students from 10 years old to be tested for smoking - the child will pass tests of breath and blood for the detection of carbon monoxide and carboxyhemoglobin
Ministry of Health has approved a new procedure for medical examination of school children, according to which the test "smoking" will be held two times - in 10 years, and 14. Teachers do not believe in the need for complex analyzes, because usually teachers already know who smokes in their class. But the impact on student teachers cannot, and psychologists are not enough, especially as the main and major work on the topic of harm from smoking cigarettes and should be done in a family.
Is it possible to protect their child from addiction? How and what to talk with the child, that he did not light?
The main thing - to show right example
According to statistics, if one parent smokes, with a probability of 97% will be smoking and child. When smoking a parent says to the child about the dangers of smoking, gives instructions, warnings - all these words, and instructions will be ignored, since the apparent ambivalence undermines the credibility of the child to the parent and, accordingly, he said.
Therefore, the best exposure will own example - parents should not smoke, and if they are already smoking, to make every effort to quit.
To psychologists. "While the words are not backed up by experience - they have no value. As a child, we know the world through the senses, and bind them to the observed phenomena. And then the word will activate the feelings and meanings that have been attached to it. And parents and did the benchmark behavior, desires, opinions. For very young kids there is no right or wrong manifestations adults. All they see is seen as the only true. In the future, we also trust my own experience is much more than words. What would be the correct word may sound, if beloved dad smokes, it means that there is something there. If your favorite dad says "Smoking - harm to health," but he smokes, most of all, he's lying. After all, this is a great intelligent adult who will not do harm to themselves, no matter what it was. At least we think so, and not only in childhood,”
Build a powerful negative attitude
Even if the parent does not smoke, fully protect children from tobacco smoke is difficult - someone is smoking in the stairwell, someone - on the balcony or in a window on the street, in cafes and in the movies. Tobacco smoke is still addictive, and smoking - the curiosity that fueled by movies and images of smoking heroes. All this forms the child's interest, and he would like to try the "forbidden fruit". It was at this point it is important to talk with your child about the dangers of smoking, to explain - why it's so scary and bad, perhaps even show a special film, which is told in the colors and the production of cigarettes and their harmful effects on the human body.
To psychologists. "This kind of information is best served the child in a visual format - let it be pictures, most unpleasant, showing how tobacco smoke affects the internal organs. The feeling of disgust there much faster. But it is important to remember that negative attitudes - only an aid in instilling healthy lifestyle. Their share should not be more than 10% in the overall process. Otherwise formed opposite phenomenon - appeal to overcome the aversion "- explained psychologist.
No scandals!
To know that your child is smoking? Try to do without scandals and cries. In adolescence, boys and girls, led by a feeling of protest, so any attempt to ban would merely have a strong interest in cigarettes.
If you know that a child smokes, your main task - to raise his self-esteem. It is best to talk quietly about who he smokes, who else in the company, why all of them are interested. Try to convince a child that without a cigarette, he will lose credibility among smoking peers, and will only cause their respect.
To psychologists. "It is always important to identify what kind of need replacing bad habit. Then we can find other ways to meet this need. It may be a desire to raise the profile of important people. During adolescence, important people - its peers, whatever you do, just take it into account. It may also be a desire to be attractive. And then the child can focus on those activities that allow you to get the desired result. For example, if a young man wants to be attractive in the eyes of the girls - it can be dance classes, “
Only positive
With young smokers have to work only on a wave of positive. It makes no sense to scare the girl early wrinkles - it is still very far from this. But note that after the withdrawal from nicotine improves appearance, are less acne and hair fall out - can have effect.
The boy can also push on the idea that kissing a smoker - not a pleasant one, and the "psevdokrutostyu" even a young girl cannot keep.
To psychologists. "In any case, the arguments are only those that are relevant to that particular person at that particular moment. It concerns a teenager, child or adult. If what you say is not personally meaningful, it will pass. Try to find reasons, it is important for your child "- advises psychologist.
Develop myths
Teenage Wednesday - the most favorable for the emergence and strengthening of myths. The task of parents and teachers - to talk about these myths and dispel them. For example, so far in the course of the myth that smoking helps to lose weight. As a result, young people believe in such a simple method to get rid of excess weight, without thinking about the consequences. Another myth says that smoking helps you relax. It is not, because the problem only "postponed until the smoldering cigarette," but face it still have.
"Smoking - not an addiction, give up, if I want to" - the most dangerous myth, because, according to statistics, only 1 out of 100 people can quit smoking by yourself. In addition, the British psychologists conducted a study which showed that the formation of tobacco dependence schoolchildren aged 12-13 years is enough to smoke 2-3 cigarettes. The lower the age, the faster mechanism is formed according to - use this argument in a conversation about the dangers of smoking.
To psychologists. "The human brain is designed in such a way that if two events occurred one after another, we connect them. As if something was the cause and consequence of something. Since forming myths. Perhaps someone is under stress and at this time is less eating, less sleep, more nervous and more smoke. The body wears out, the person loses weight rapidly. Then the situation is stabilized, it is possible to rest, comes the idea that we should give up smoking. And at this time the body recovers and begins to "stock up" for the future. In head the thought creeps in, "I got better, because quit smoking." And myths are born. It is necessary to explain to your child how to separate flies from cutlets and why some relationships - far-fetched, "- said the expert.
Forbidden fruit - sweet?
There are three things that adults are allowed and no child - is to drink, smoke and have sex. Often children start smoking to grow faster in their eyes and in the eyes of others. He still nothing is impossible, but very desirable. Perhaps if smoking is not forbidden fruit, it will not be such a necessary step on the way of growing up?
To psychologists. "The most discouraging explanation adult:" You cannot, because you're still not mature enough. “The child may perceive the phrase as "you lower quality, I better than you." The obvious question is: "what’s the difference between us? '. As a result, the child tends to be good and do the same things that adults do. In my opinion, the common phrase: "I am a mother, I know better", "you're still a baby," "will have their children see," "as long as you live under my roof, I'll point out to you what to do" - is pronounced in the case if you want to deliberately sow and cultivate grain of insecurity and low self-esteem in your child. Then it will be childish and would amount to nothing. But it will never be as good as a parent, “
Allow your child to make decisions
All solutions - vital and not - for parents taking their children. Therefore, the decision to start smoking - could become the first independent act in the life of your child.
To this did not happen, it is necessary to give more freedom to the teenager and to form his sense of responsibility - especially in front of him. Let him decide whom to be friends with anyone, and how to dress - and then the child will not have to prove cigarettes with you their independence.
To psychologists. "The opportunity to open communication of parent and child, when your child can talk about their hopes, fears and find the adult part, without the guidance, and the pressure - the key to a more harmonious and integral development of the person. If a young adult with a young child knows that his opinion is important and that he himself is responsible for what happens to him, he will take responsibility for their decisions. And you'll know what's going on in his life, and his experience to support it and help it "- suggests the expert.
Talk about drugs
Explain that it is a drug, but talk to him like an adult. You should not intimidate and frighten a child, he needs - to explain: what is the relationship what it is like there, why it so difficult to get rid of.
To psychologists. "The availability of information is always expanding informed choices. If we find ourselves in a strange situation, we instinctively seek out, through trial and error. If we have the information about what is happening, we can quickly navigate and make a decision ", - explained the psychologist.
Make friends
Being in the status of one another, you can always learn more about your child than when you are perceived as the embodiment of austerity and punishment. Becoming a child of the other, you first find out who among his friends and peers already lit, and can it with him and just talk quietly, learning along the way, I wonder whether he himself try to smoke a cigarette. In addition, the mutual friendship and trust will help to monitor and first experiences with alcohol, and love the events in the life of a teenager.
To psychologists. "The opportunity to come and consult with you as with a more experienced person - always important for a child. Remember that teens are not accepted to show that the parent is the authority. And if you think that a child cannot hear you, or resist, be discreet and quiet. If he makes an appearance, it does not mean that he does not listen to you. But for him, it is important to keep your face and be independent. Give him the opportunity. Speak your opinion, is argued to give information without pressure. All that is necessary, the child will take. Whatever stage of development him or passed, parents will still remain the most important and significant people in his life, has a huge and valuable experience”.
Ministry of Health has approved a new procedure for medical examination of school children, according to which the test "smoking" will be held two times - in 10 years, and 14. Teachers do not believe in the need for complex analyzes, because usually teachers already know who smokes in their class. But the impact on student teachers cannot, and psychologists are not enough, especially as the main and major work on the topic of harm from smoking cigarettes and should be done in a family.
Is it possible to protect their child from addiction? How and what to talk with the child, that he did not light?
The main thing - to show right example
According to statistics, if one parent smokes, with a probability of 97% will be smoking and child. When smoking a parent says to the child about the dangers of smoking, gives instructions, warnings - all these words, and instructions will be ignored, since the apparent ambivalence undermines the credibility of the child to the parent and, accordingly, he said.
Therefore, the best exposure will own example - parents should not smoke, and if they are already smoking, to make every effort to quit.
To psychologists. "While the words are not backed up by experience - they have no value. As a child, we know the world through the senses, and bind them to the observed phenomena. And then the word will activate the feelings and meanings that have been attached to it. And parents and did the benchmark behavior, desires, opinions. For very young kids there is no right or wrong manifestations adults. All they see is seen as the only true. In the future, we also trust my own experience is much more than words. What would be the correct word may sound, if beloved dad smokes, it means that there is something there. If your favorite dad says "Smoking - harm to health," but he smokes, most of all, he's lying. After all, this is a great intelligent adult who will not do harm to themselves, no matter what it was. At least we think so, and not only in childhood,”
Build a powerful negative attitude
Even if the parent does not smoke, fully protect children from tobacco smoke is difficult - someone is smoking in the stairwell, someone - on the balcony or in a window on the street, in cafes and in the movies. Tobacco smoke is still addictive, and smoking - the curiosity that fueled by movies and images of smoking heroes. All this forms the child's interest, and he would like to try the "forbidden fruit". It was at this point it is important to talk with your child about the dangers of smoking, to explain - why it's so scary and bad, perhaps even show a special film, which is told in the colors and the production of cigarettes and their harmful effects on the human body.
To psychologists. "This kind of information is best served the child in a visual format - let it be pictures, most unpleasant, showing how tobacco smoke affects the internal organs. The feeling of disgust there much faster. But it is important to remember that negative attitudes - only an aid in instilling healthy lifestyle. Their share should not be more than 10% in the overall process. Otherwise formed opposite phenomenon - appeal to overcome the aversion "- explained psychologist.
No scandals!
To know that your child is smoking? Try to do without scandals and cries. In adolescence, boys and girls, led by a feeling of protest, so any attempt to ban would merely have a strong interest in cigarettes.
If you know that a child smokes, your main task - to raise his self-esteem. It is best to talk quietly about who he smokes, who else in the company, why all of them are interested. Try to convince a child that without a cigarette, he will lose credibility among smoking peers, and will only cause their respect.
To psychologists. "It is always important to identify what kind of need replacing bad habit. Then we can find other ways to meet this need. It may be a desire to raise the profile of important people. During adolescence, important people - its peers, whatever you do, just take it into account. It may also be a desire to be attractive. And then the child can focus on those activities that allow you to get the desired result. For example, if a young man wants to be attractive in the eyes of the girls - it can be dance classes, “
Only positive
With young smokers have to work only on a wave of positive. It makes no sense to scare the girl early wrinkles - it is still very far from this. But note that after the withdrawal from nicotine improves appearance, are less acne and hair fall out - can have effect.
The boy can also push on the idea that kissing a smoker - not a pleasant one, and the "psevdokrutostyu" even a young girl cannot keep.
To psychologists. "In any case, the arguments are only those that are relevant to that particular person at that particular moment. It concerns a teenager, child or adult. If what you say is not personally meaningful, it will pass. Try to find reasons, it is important for your child "- advises psychologist.
Develop myths
Teenage Wednesday - the most favorable for the emergence and strengthening of myths. The task of parents and teachers - to talk about these myths and dispel them. For example, so far in the course of the myth that smoking helps to lose weight. As a result, young people believe in such a simple method to get rid of excess weight, without thinking about the consequences. Another myth says that smoking helps you relax. It is not, because the problem only "postponed until the smoldering cigarette," but face it still have.
"Smoking - not an addiction, give up, if I want to" - the most dangerous myth, because, according to statistics, only 1 out of 100 people can quit smoking by yourself. In addition, the British psychologists conducted a study which showed that the formation of tobacco dependence schoolchildren aged 12-13 years is enough to smoke 2-3 cigarettes. The lower the age, the faster mechanism is formed according to - use this argument in a conversation about the dangers of smoking.
To psychologists. "The human brain is designed in such a way that if two events occurred one after another, we connect them. As if something was the cause and consequence of something. Since forming myths. Perhaps someone is under stress and at this time is less eating, less sleep, more nervous and more smoke. The body wears out, the person loses weight rapidly. Then the situation is stabilized, it is possible to rest, comes the idea that we should give up smoking. And at this time the body recovers and begins to "stock up" for the future. In head the thought creeps in, "I got better, because quit smoking." And myths are born. It is necessary to explain to your child how to separate flies from cutlets and why some relationships - far-fetched, "- said the expert.
Forbidden fruit - sweet?
There are three things that adults are allowed and no child - is to drink, smoke and have sex. Often children start smoking to grow faster in their eyes and in the eyes of others. He still nothing is impossible, but very desirable. Perhaps if smoking is not forbidden fruit, it will not be such a necessary step on the way of growing up?
To psychologists. "The most discouraging explanation adult:" You cannot, because you're still not mature enough. “The child may perceive the phrase as "you lower quality, I better than you." The obvious question is: "what’s the difference between us? '. As a result, the child tends to be good and do the same things that adults do. In my opinion, the common phrase: "I am a mother, I know better", "you're still a baby," "will have their children see," "as long as you live under my roof, I'll point out to you what to do" - is pronounced in the case if you want to deliberately sow and cultivate grain of insecurity and low self-esteem in your child. Then it will be childish and would amount to nothing. But it will never be as good as a parent, “
Allow your child to make decisions
All solutions - vital and not - for parents taking their children. Therefore, the decision to start smoking - could become the first independent act in the life of your child.
To this did not happen, it is necessary to give more freedom to the teenager and to form his sense of responsibility - especially in front of him. Let him decide whom to be friends with anyone, and how to dress - and then the child will not have to prove cigarettes with you their independence.
To psychologists. "The opportunity to open communication of parent and child, when your child can talk about their hopes, fears and find the adult part, without the guidance, and the pressure - the key to a more harmonious and integral development of the person. If a young adult with a young child knows that his opinion is important and that he himself is responsible for what happens to him, he will take responsibility for their decisions. And you'll know what's going on in his life, and his experience to support it and help it "- suggests the expert.
Talk about drugs
Explain that it is a drug, but talk to him like an adult. You should not intimidate and frighten a child, he needs - to explain: what is the relationship what it is like there, why it so difficult to get rid of.
To psychologists. "The availability of information is always expanding informed choices. If we find ourselves in a strange situation, we instinctively seek out, through trial and error. If we have the information about what is happening, we can quickly navigate and make a decision ", - explained the psychologist.
Make friends
Being in the status of one another, you can always learn more about your child than when you are perceived as the embodiment of austerity and punishment. Becoming a child of the other, you first find out who among his friends and peers already lit, and can it with him and just talk quietly, learning along the way, I wonder whether he himself try to smoke a cigarette. In addition, the mutual friendship and trust will help to monitor and first experiences with alcohol, and love the events in the life of a teenager.
To psychologists. "The opportunity to come and consult with you as with a more experienced person - always important for a child. Remember that teens are not accepted to show that the parent is the authority. And if you think that a child cannot hear you, or resist, be discreet and quiet. If he makes an appearance, it does not mean that he does not listen to you. But for him, it is important to keep your face and be independent. Give him the opportunity. Speak your opinion, is argued to give information without pressure. All that is necessary, the child will take. Whatever stage of development him or passed, parents will still remain the most important and significant people in his life, has a huge and valuable experience”.